First, enjoy your moment. But seriously, as soon as you start to share the news, the questions will flood in — When is the wedding? Where is the wedding? Have you found your dress? Diving into the details is fun but be sure to enjoy a little newly engaged bliss with your fiance.
Second, share the news! Call your parents, siblings, grandparents, best friends, etc. In today’s digital-first world, it may be instinct to post an immediate update of your newly engaged status but loved ones and close friends will appreciate hearing the news personally from you.
After you’ve soaked up all the love from sharing your news and are ready to get down to business, there are a few practical areas to tackle first. Most are super fun and some are a little less (ahem, budget).
Insure your ring. Not the most romantic item on the list but the need for insurance is more common than you might think – you may accidentally lose a stone at the gym, leave it behind at the spa, or lose it at the beach so it’s worth a small investment to provide protection. According to The Knot, “The yearly cost to insure your ring is $1 to $2 for every $100 that it would cost to replace.”
Determine your budget. Will you be paying for the wedding yourselves or have your parents set aside some funds? Now’s the time to have the conversation and iron out the details. Unfortunately, you can’t really get started with much of the planning until this is complete.
Start brainstorming your style. It’s easy to get lost in the minutia of details when planning a wedding so start broad. Determine what styles you gravitate towards – industrial, boho, romantic, rustic. Have a little fun on Pinterest and use real weddings for inspo. This will serve as a guiding light for your planning for everything from venue, decor, and dress to menu and favors.
Now that you’ve tackled the practical items and determined direction for your wedding (budget, style) it’s time to dive in. Planning your big day is an incredibly exciting time but remember, there are a few things to avoid (or you might regret it later):
- Don’t extend invitations. When sharing the news, it can be awkward to receive questions from people who may not end up on the final guest list. To avoid tough conversations later, trust that they are asking because they’re truly curious and excited for you – not because they are hoping you’ll extend an invite on the spot.
- Don’t forget to enjoy the moment. Your wedding will be a celebration of your love and life-long commitment with the most important people in your life. Even if planning gets a little stressful, remember the big picture and enjoy this time together.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. Through my experience with event planning, I’ve realized that most people don’t notice the little things unless something go wrong. For example, they’re more likely to remember that you ran out of wine as opposed to what glassware the wine was served in – so don’t sweat the small stuff and focus on the experience instead.